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Common Fears and Concerns

Updated: 5 days ago


A woman wearing a green one-piece lace lingerie poses beautifully while lying on the floor.

Many women have concerns and fears when trying to decide whether or not to book a boudoir session. Unfortunately, these fears are very common and cause many women to miss out on this amazing experience. One of the things boudoir photographers hear most from boudoir clients, after all, is said and done is, “Every woman should experience this at least once in their lifetime!” They also get many repeat clients because, after their first session, they have put those fears and concerns to rest.


Let’s look at some of the most common concerns that I hear from girls who feel a little skeptical and let’s

put those fears to rest!


A woman in black lingerie poses fiercely on a black couch.

“I am not comfortable with my flaws.”


Let’s face it, we all have flaws! Not a single one of us is perfect. There is no such thing as too heavy, too thin, too pale, too dark, too many stretch marks, etc. Our flaws are what make us unique. And you are ALL equally beautiful! I have flaws myself, and I can assure you that I am the last one to judge any female for anything they see as a flaw. I see you as a strong badass woman who is gorgeous in her own way. I see you as a client therefore, I will go above and beyond to listen to you and help guide you through the whole process while focusing on your best assets.


A woman with a vintage look poses elegantly in her boudoir shoot, wearing a red hat, black hand gloves, and holding a white feathery fan.

“I won’t know how to pose properly.”


Listen up, ladies! As a professional boudoir photographer, I do my research. You do not need to know how to pose, it’s my job to pose you! I will direct you through the whole process all the way down to the way you tilt your head and where to place your hand. I will actually demonstrate the poses with you and physically move your hands, arms, legs, etc. if needed. It is a team effort and we are in this together. All you need to do is show up and let me handle the rest. You may come into the session feeling a little stiff and awkward but, gradually you will become more and more comfortable with each pose. You do not need to be a professional model to have a boudoir session!

A woman poses seductively on the floor in black lingerie, adorned with hoop earrings and a necklace." Right Image: "A woman leans against the wall with her right leg stretched out, resting her feet on the wall.

“I’m afraid I won’t like the photos of myself.”


This concern usually stems from the above two concerns. Being afraid that your flaws and inability to know how to pose properly will ruin your images. No one wants to look awkward, uncomfortable, or have their flaws displayed and captured on camera. I take great pride in my services and work. I want you to look beautiful and FEEL beautiful when you see your photos! I want you to be satisfied and enjoy your experience. And that’s why I will work tentatively with you to make sure we get the perfect poses and expressions that highlight everything beautiful about you!


A boudoir session is such a wonderful experience! They allow you to see yourself in a way that maybe you refuse to yourself, which is beautiful, sensual, and just plain awesome! I want my clients to be pleased and blown away when they see their images and be proud that they decided to go through with it. Please do not let these common fears and concerns from having this experience yourself. You will NOT regret it!

A woman with beautifully dyed blond and blue hair wears an alluring one-piece lingerie with stockings as she poses on the stairs.

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